Dear Katherine,

I was seeing this girl for a couple of months. We were really into each other — I thought — and hung out quite a bit. We even said we were exclusive at one point. However, about a couple of weeks ago, I started feeling some distance from her. All of a sudden, she wasn’t as free as she used to be. She first said it was because of midterms. I understood this, so we just kept in contact via texts. However, shortly after that, the texts suddenly became less and less frequent, until they disappeared altogether. I don’t understand why all of a sudden she stopped talking to me, but now I’m pissed and hurt. I don’t know if I should just let it go, or I should confront her about this. Advice?

Sincerely,

To Text or Not to Text

Dear To Text or Not to Text,

You have a right to be hurt. This girl just played with your feelings. The thing that frustrates me so much about situations like these is the cowardliness of the person who, instead of ending it in a way that is both upfront and honest, he or she would rather forget it ever happened and disappear from the other person’s life without a trace. It’s okay to date someone for a while and then realize it won’t work out — but at least tell the other person this. It is the mature, responsible and sensitive thing to do.

So, I think you should text her. Don’t let her get away with this bad behavior — let her know how you’re hurt, how you’re confused. Though you weren’t together for long, you invested your feelings in her, and she owes you some closure. Demand the respect you deserve, and hopefully, she will rethink doing something like this again in the future.

Good luck.

Sincerely,

Katherine

Email the Emerald’s sex and relationships features reporter with similar issues at kmarrone@dailyemerald.com